When Tears Flow for Another’s Success

OVERCOME with emotion, difficult as it was to see the letters typed onto the screen of my Surface Pro, I was so very thankful.

Having just returned from taking a very special friend, basically an extension of my family, someone I’ve been a pastor to, and a person we’ve become connected with; his family and our own family – a kinship. We’ve very much travelled a unique journey together over the past nearly two years. We’ve had such significant losses to deal with; the centrepiece of such losses occurred on the same date – no coincidence; a God-incidence. We’ve faced the worst together, and met the best side by side.

This very special young man goes to England to play professional basketball in the British Basketball League. And yet to know his journey and the setbacks that he’s dealt with, he is a walking miracle of God’s grace – a fine young man in any guileless person’s standard. A man of faith and character.

So, as I prayed in departures before we said goodbye I thought nothing of emotion, until I was walking away. Then God showed me a vision! Back to a time two months earlier when his doubts were more certain that this dream-come-true was actually happening. And still, in the present moment, so thankful to God were we both, with his mother and father and all his dear friends, for the fact that this moment had finally arrived.

When you invest yourself in another person’s life it’s a labour of love and you never expect anything in return. Serving is its own reward. But then when they do succeed in ways you or they couldn’t anticipate you’re blessed in being overcome with gratitude for what you feel for the fact of their success.

Why Leaders Must Choose Their FIGHTS

Have you ever heard the adage, Leaders must be able to pick, and choose, their battles/ fights? Unfortunately, I have discovered, in my four decades of identifying, qualifying, training, developing, and consulting to, thousands of actual and/ or potential leaders, as well as serving in the capacity of a leader, several times, we often think of a leader, like we do, a sports hero. In other words, these people are not super – human, but possess the same frailties, weaknesses, etc, the rest of us do! Often, the difference is, the most effective leaders, are those, who maintain and possess the discipline and ability, to remain calm, when others, often, panic! Failing leadership often occurs, because an individual over – reacts, rather than carefully, picking and choosing, his FIGHTS.

1. Face facts; favorable: Unless someone begins, with a willingness to be realistic and face the facts, he is challenged, to be able to effectively address what needs to be done. Focus should be on the priorities, goals, concerns, and needs, of one’s organization, and stakeholders, rather than on mere, emotional considerations! Proceed by always asking yourself, what should be done, to achieve the most favorable result and situation!

2. Ideas; ideology; integrity; intentions: Avoid empty rhetoric and/ or meaningless, unfulfilled promises! Be the creator of quality ideas, which align with the ideology of one’s group. Understand your true intentions, and always proceed with a commitment to maintain absolute integrity, rather than prioritizing popularity, or the easiest paths!

3. Goals; generate goodwill; growth: Are you goals in sync with, those of your organization and constituents? How will your actions generate goodwill, and lead to the growth, which relevant. sustainable groups, need and require?

4. Head/ heart; heal: Do you, merely, tend to disagree, or feel challenged, or are you the type of healing leader, groups need? One will generally avoid, battling, for little purpose, and consistently, still, fighting for the right reasons, when he proceeds, with a head/ heart balance!

5. Traction; timely: While failing organizations often lose their focus and way, relevant, sustainable groups, assure the finest results, by persistently gaining traction, one – step – at – a – time! While decisions should be well – considered, there is always a need, for quality, timely action!

6. Stronger; sustainable system: Before fighting, always consider, if it is a matter of preference and ego, or if there is a necessity, in order for the organization to become stronger, and more relevant. Perhaps, the most important consideration, is, creating, developing and implement, the best – possible, sustainable system!

Maintain an open, fair – minded, approach, and listen carefully and evaluate, before resisting! Will you pick – and – choose your battles and FIGHTS, and be certain you are proceeding along the best path?

Do You Know Your Limits?

Unfortunately, for most of us, letting go of who we are is like dying. Far too many of us believe we will be nothing if we let go of who we are. Can you step out of the person you have always been and take actions that are uncharacteristic of you?

One of the most difficult aspects of being a human being is that if you depend solely on what you know, at some point, you will experience tremendous restrictions in life. What we know directly impacts who we are. Why? We develop thought processes and behavioral patterns based on the information we have been given about life. That includes social constructs. In fact, we become attached to what we know and live with certainty that what we know and who we are is good enough. For some, there is the belief that there is nothing better.

At the same time, can any of us be so arrogant to believe that what we know is sufficient enough to handle what we don’t know we don’t know? There are possibilities in your everyday life waiting to be discovered. And what you know may not help you. The only obstacle to those discoveries will be what you know and who you have become.

Can you open your mind to the possibility that you can become a greater you without the you from the past? Be daring. Let go of past behavioral patterns you learned from your environment and explore the richness of the unknown greater you.